Leaving

Finally its here, India.

The blues, the blues! I hope I don't disintegrate. I am going to miss him terribly.

Rethinking Marriage

To make a commitment to each other, to your children and to a certain set of values. That in a few words is what in my opinion makes the foundation of a firm family.

I am at that point in my life, where am starting to think about starting a family. A man to walk this journey called life with and a brood to nurture. I don’t want to just start a family, I want someone with whom I can share with life’s every day challenges; someone who can be my partner in raising our brood yet instilling in them life’s values; someone who can be my partner in making our lives progressive; someone I can work with to create our own legacy; someone who I can count on in whatever circumstances, my friend; a person, who strongly believes in the institution of marriage and knows what he wants in life.

I have been married before but it didn’t work out the way I would have wanted it to. Neither did I get the opportunity to live up to my wish list nor did I have the chance to think seriously about what I was getting into. The circumstances then did not allow. I fell pregnant and despite the fact that I had very serious concerns about whether the father of my unborn child would measure up as a life partner, in my view the only option was to get married and give my child a normal upbringing with both mother and father. I even toyed with the idea that the coming into the world of our child would change him. But I was WRONG.

I am glad I am able to get a second chance to correct my mistakes, to revisit my wish list, amend it and take my time to study it and work out what can be done or not done.

I am very well aware marriage is not the simplest of undertakings. But I have been inspired by those around me who have trodden its often not so easy paths and succeeded. Bottom line you all must want it so bad, have almost similar values and work together towards making it work.

Rants and Raves

Today I woke up feeling mentally exhausted. Since my parents came for holidays, I have been feeling like am living in a box, my space has been intruded!!

To make things worse I have certain matters concerning me, long-term and short-term plans which I know are very contentious if discussed with my parents. The thought of their contentiousness also wears me out. I need to break free from having my parents playing a big role in the decisions I make in life. I am 30years for crying out loud!

Well, seems like the only solution to this is to go ahead with whatever plans I have regardless of what my parents reactions may be. I know they are very important to me especially that they are very vital for my personal development.